HOME-REMAKING IN A TRANSGENDER MARRIAGE by Kristin Collier
What would you do if you had to remake yourself after your husband became your wife? Kristin Collier tells her story – at turns hilarious, at turns poignant – in beautiful prose that draws you into the journey of her family’s transformation. By the end, you forget that the story is supposed to be about gender identity – you’re so wrapped up in the humanity of the characters that you lose your inhibitions in Collier’s complex, messy, and graceful world. With wit and wisdom, Collier holds your hand, straps on her apron and leads you into the messy kitchen, where she cooks up a glorious tale of transformation, tradition, and triumph.
“Housewife is an uplifting and beautiful story that shows us what it means to love unconditionally and be honest with both ourselves and others. This book will capture your heart.”
— CAT J. ZAVIS, Empathic Communication Trainer and Executive Director of Network of Spiritual Progressives
In 2006, Kristin’s partner began transitioning from male to female. Her poignant memoir is punctuated by snapshots of daily family life: poetic instances that are sometimes shocking, sometimes heartbreakingly tender. Click below to view a gallery of images and the stories that go along with her family’s transgender journey.
My husband tells me that while I was at my mother’s, he wore a skirt all the time. It swished around his ankles as he danced up and down the hall, and my husband had an epiphany: he was meant to be a woman. Everything is clear. To him.
I want another baby. I’m afraid to have one with Fred because our family could be on the brink of extinction. I’m tempted to conceive before it disintegrates, so I can have one more child with this person I adore beyond reason.My inner stockbroker determines that it is not a wise investment to have a baby now. I decide to plan for a new dog instead.
The City of Eugene removes the exclusion clause and transpeople finally receive insurance for needed treatment. Seda’s surgery will be covered at 80 percent. She reads the letter at the picnic table then sets it beside her, staring out into the garden without a smile on her face. “Is it over?” she asks me, and she begins to cry.
I am excited to have this in-depth interview with Mothering Magazine (a favorite) about how new legislation affects trans kids and all kids, the real issues trans kids face daily, and how we can best support them as well as all youth around the concepts of gender...
I enjoyed Dr. Pamela Brewer’s interview immensely. Her site is a “source for relationship and mental health literacy,” and I’m honored to be included in what she has to share, honored more that she became so engrossed in our interview that...
Looking forward to the opportunity to share and talk about “Housewife: Home-remaking in a Transgender Marriage”, about my experience dealing with my husband’s transition — and the larger concept of handling life’s surprises with compassion....
I loved writing this piece for The Daily Caller because it asked me to synthesize my family and personal life with our current political atmosphere in a succinct post. What goes on in my head (having a transgender parenting partner) when I read the headlines these...
Received a nice note from Donna Rhoda after she read my book following the Library talk a couple weeks ago. “…Thank you for your very informative presentation at Driftwood Public Library in Lincoln City, Oregon as part of the Oregon author series…...
Transgenderism in people, fish, snakes and other animals shows up across the world and in history as far back as the stone age. Turns out that I was not allowed to change this natural flow just because I wanted my husband and the father of my children to remain a man. In the end, I took my husbands word for it: She was a woman.